As children grow and becomes less egocentric, they show increasing awareness of how they measure up against peers. Their perceptions of being accepted and their ability to get along affectively help to shape their feelings of self-worth.
Striving, results in either a Loss or Learning a Lesson. Loss is never a Failure, nor is Learning a Lesson, a Win.
The thing is, perfect people don’t exist, but there’s always that one person who is perfect for you.